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Boundaries Quotes
"ASK YOURSELF: Have you found that being nice to some people is simply not effective? When might it be wise to throw down the gauntlet and get tough or confrontational?"
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"I just don't believe in helping people who are going to torture me. Though I don't see any bamboo slivers. How can you possibly torture someone without bamboo slivers?"
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"If you have a room which you do not want certain people to get into, put a lock on it for which they do not have the key. But there is no point in talking to them about it, unless of course you want them to admire the room from outside! The honorable thing to do is put a lock on the door which will be noticed only by those who can open it, not by the rest."
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"I needed to begin respecting my own body's boundaries. I had to draw clear lines. Ones that were sound in my mind and therefore impermeable, and would always, no matter where I walked, protect me. Moving forward, I wanted rules."
29
"Don't lower your standards to keep anyone, if they're not making you happy, it's time to find someone who does."
28
"He [Ranger] stopped in front of my parents' house, and we both looked to the door. My mother and my grandmother were standing there, watching us.'I'm not sure I feel comfortable about the way your grandma looks at me,' Ranger said.[Stephanie] 'She wants to see you naked.''I wish you hadn't told me that, babe.''Everyone I know wants to see you naked.''And you?''Never crossed my mind.' I held my breath when I said it, and I hoped God wouldn't stike me down dead for lying."
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"True closeness respects each other's space.You can never get any measuring instrument to compare and set on a pedestal how one truly cares for you in any kind of relationship.There is a big difference between closeness and dependency, compassionate, honest, generous, humble heart thanprejudiced, jealous, insecure heart.Each one should respect the growth of a relationship as we all evolve in a world interconnected with many hearts, minds and souls."
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"When teaching someone a boundary, they learn less from the enforcement of the boundary, and more from the way the boundary is established."
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"Preserve me from such cordiality! It is like handling briar - roses and may - blossoms - bright enough to the eye, and outwardly soft to the touch, but you know there are thorns beneath, and every now and then you feel them too; and perhaps resent the injury by crushing them in till you have destroyed their power, though somewhat to the detriment of your own fingers."
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"Sorry, one night stands don't stack up as credentials for tending bar."
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"Let the boundlessness be your boundary!"
26
"He was not my boyfriend. On the other hand, he wasn't just a friend either. Instead, our relationship was elastic, stretching between those two extremes depending on who else was around, how much either of us had to drink, and other varying factors. This was exactly what I wanted, as commitments had never really been my thing. And it wasn't like it was hard, either. The only trick was never giving more than you were willing to lose."
25
"Wouldn't you rather have the respect of your friends and colleagues than succumb to pressure to do and say things that are out of character in order to feel accepted? You can overcome this habit simply by learning to say "no."
25
"People can have their opinions about everything in the world, but people's opinions end where the tip of my nose begins. Your opinions of others can only go so far as to where their own shoreline is. The world is for your taking, but other people are not. One is only allowed to have an opinion of me, if that person is done educating him/herself on everything about me. Before people educate themselves on everything about you, they're not allowed to open their venomous mouthes and have an opinion about you."
25
"Sometimes you just need to distance yourself from people. If they care, they'll notice. If they don't, you know where you stand."
25
"Don't get me wrong, she was an attractive girl, but the last thing she needed was to get mixed up with me."
25
"All I could think as he was speaking was that, if he touched me at all, all the miles I'd walked, the pain I'd felt, the beauty I'd drunken like milk, like good wine making me happy, the four million steps I'd taken, would all add up to nothing. They'd be stolen. They'd vanish like the teeth children lose when they get hit. Only after the blood was washed away would I see that they were gone."
25
"The way to send a clear message that you are ready for better people in your life is the kick the rascals to the curb."
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"Never chase a person, because if they want to be in your life, they will. It amazes me how people go out their way for someone who does nothing for them, doesn't encourage or support their efforts. Stop seeking attention from people who don't give you the time of day. Value your time, comfort your spirit, have peace of mind. There are people who love you and care about you.Give your smiles to them, Reciprocate!"
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"As I acknowledge the boundaries within myself, I am given plenty of opportunities to reinforce them."
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"It took me almost two thousand miles in the woods to see I had to do some hard work that wasn't simply walking-that I needed to begin respecting my own body's boundaries. I had to draw clear lines. Ones that were sound in my mind and therefore impermeable, and would always, no matter where I walked, protect me. Moving forward, I wanted rules.First-when I felt unsafe I'd leave, immediately. The first time, not the tenth time. Not after a hundred red flags smacked in wind violently, clear as trail signs pointing the way to SNAKES. Not after I'd been bitten-the violation. If I wasn't interested, I would reject the man blatantly."
20
"The desire to be nice to everyone and please everyone and the inability to firmly say no is what destroys believers most of all."
20
"The walls around the hood keep the people on the inside from the changes on the outside."
20
"There are few phrases that annoy me more than I won't bite. The only line that pisses me off faster is when some drunk, ham-faced dude in a bar sees me trying to get past him and barks: Smile,it can't be that bad! Yeah, actually, it can, jackwad."
20
"The small word, "No. I'd see its deity."
19
"Your anger, pride, deceit, and greed should be such that they hurt no one. If they are limited to where they only hurt only you and no one else, then the path of liberation is open."
19
"When she removed my hand from her chest for the one hundred thousandth time. Attack and defense, invasion and repulsion... it was as if breasts were little pieces of property that had been unlawfully annexed by the opposite sex - they were rightfully ours and we wanted them back."
18
"Continually trying to satisfy someone who attempts to control you is like bailing someone out of jail when they need to learn a lesson. They will never learn how to take care of themselves unless you are not there to take care of them. Get out of the middle. You take care of you. Let God take care of them."
18
"You can't be 'it for everyone. In fact, if you try to please everyone, you will please no one, especially yourself."
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"I only want one thing of men, and that is, that they should leave me alone."
18
"I'll share my life with you. But, not my doughnuts."
17
"It is very possible to acknowledge another person's concerns without entering into their vibration."
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"Unconditional love is like a contry of two with no laws and no government. Which is all fine if everyone is peaceful and law abiding. In the wrong hands, though, you got looting and crime sprees, and let me tell you, the people who demand unconditional love are usually the ones who will rob and pillage and then blame you because you left your door unlocked."
14
"I will feel no guilt on shutting my door to those who didn't listen."
14
"We violated each other's boundaries with verbal missiles of anger disguised in the pretense of 'just kidding."
13
"Recognize the signs, these perpetual question and need to control. Never be a part of someone else's obsession. Let them carry it alone, with their snakeskin smile. These are the people that hold their hand out and it's as cold as their heart."
13
"Move away from Machiavellian hearts. Manipulative people can frame you up even if you have a humble, simple and generous heart. Question their motive."
13
"Mothering your man is not sexy for you or for him. If you want your man to 'start being a man', start being his lover not his mother."
13
"We should have the right to have someone leave when we want, to only allow those in who we want in. But the truth is, people can force their way into your life whenever they choose. If they want to remind you forevermore that they exist, they will. They can reappear in a card or call or a 'chance' meeting, they can remember your birthday or the day you met with some innocuous small note. No matter how little they matter in your new life, they can insist on being seen and recognized and remembered."
13
"The truth is, we tend to train people how we want to be treated. If others know you have wishy-washy boundaries then they are free to walk all over you; the results you become a doormat. We have actually trained others to do this when we will allow people to wipe their muddy feet on us. After all, we are doormats."
13
"He will not let you come barging in to his world like the proverbial bull in the china shop."
12
"Don't you ever let another put their hands on something that's already yours, because you might end up breaking your own heart."
11
"When you decide to be the best you can be, don't be surprised if the circle of people you want to spend your time with becomes smaller."
11
"I'd have to be impolite, an inconvenience, and sometimes awkward. But if I could commit, all that discomfort would add up to zap predatory threads like a Taser gun. I'd stun them. They'd bow to me. I'd let my no echo against the mountains.And better to feel bad for a moment saying no-and stop it-than to get harmed.I would take better care.That small word, no. I'd see its deity."
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"I refuse to live life with unsettled differences."
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"Walking away from bad situations and negative people sets a healthier tone for the rest of your life. It also gives those who do not know any better the opportunity to self-correct."
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