Scott Stabile is a courageous American author and public speaker who transforms profound personal tragedy into a powerful message of love, forgiveness, and self-acceptance. Through his bestselling books and popular workshops, he guides others toward healing and authentic living. His raw, heartfelt essays on life and relationships have garnered a massive global following. Scott's journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and inspires people to live boldly, love openly, and embrace their true selves without apology.
"We can't really know what relationships will last or not last in our lives, romantic and otherwise. What we can do is give the best we've got to the relationships we've chosen for ourselves. We can show up with an open heart and mind, be grateful for the exchange of love, and trust in however these relationships evolve. We can also be grateful for the relationships that have ended, trusting that we received from them something important that has helped to move us farther along our paths."
"Shame lies. All the time. About everything. Don't believe your shame."
"We are all many things. Sometimes people get used to us being the one thing they most expect from us, and they don't know how to handle the other many things we are and have to offer. This is not our limitation to own. Let's be whatever many things our heart calls us to be. There's not a lot of consistency in freedom, aside from fluid movement among the many things we are. And that's a mighty beautiful thing."
"I was still water, held by my surroundings.I am now a river, carving my own path."
"I keep forgetting how important it is to just be still sometimes. Without a phone, or a TV, or a friend. Alone. Quiet. Connected to nothing, and everything, all at once. Undistracted."
"I can't tell you anything about yourself you don't already know, WAIT, unless you don't know you're an incredibly freaking amazing person with boundless gifts to share then I can tell you that."
"I can think of no greater way to live my life than with as much love as I can give, as often as I can give it."
"I've wasted a lot of time in my life waiting for good things to happen, rather than acting to make them happen.What I've learned?Waiting suffocates power. Acting ignites it.Waiting feeds anxiety. Acting relaxes it. Waiting fuels boredom. Acting repels it. Waiting galvanizes fear. Acting subdues it. Your life will not change any sooner while you wait around for something new. But it just may transform at warp speed once you take action to change it. I'm tired of wasting time, of waiting time. How about you?Act, don't wait."
"I have yet to figure out a better way to combat hate than to love harder."
"When our desire for truth outweighs our fear of change, we make choices that serve an open heart rather than a closed mind."
"Kindness danced through the streets,leaving warmer hearts and smiles everywhere it dared to show itself."
"The fact that you don't realize how wonderful you are only makes you more wonderful."
"Making someone responsible for your misery also makes them responsible for your happiness. Why give that power to anyone but yourself?"
"We all have choices. What are you choosing to believe about yourself, and about your life Believing you don't have a choice is a choice."
"Being right is massively overrated, especially when it comes at the expense of being compassionate and kind."
"I do love you, but I can no longer wait for you to figure out how to love me in a way that makes us both feel good."
"I will love you through everything. Can you do yourself the same honor?"
"I don't know about you, but sometimes I need to remind myself to breathe. I have to close my eyes and concentrate, even force myself to take a few deep breaths. In and out. In and out. In and out.I know that breathing just happens, without us needing to work at it. But so does stress, and distress, and discomfort. That's when a few deep, conscious breaths can make a world of difference.Can I get an inhale?"
"Love doesn't pity, nor does it resent. Love understands that, no matter our circumstances, we are all equal. We are all the same. We are all worthy of Love.Some have it harder than you. Some have it easier than you. Love them equally."
"Sheep sheep are adorable.Human sheep, not so much.Think for yourself, for flock's sake."
"It's easy to rebuke each other's opinions, but can we honor each other's pain? Can we make the effort to see beyond the portraits we've painted of one another, and to connect to the humanity that thrives beneath our own assumptions? Can we be relentless in our desire to tear down walls, and to build bridges? Can we be brave and stay committed to the conversations that need to be had?The only thing I know about these questions is that I need to replace the we with I, and begin to answer them from there.One thing I know for sure: I want to become the example I wish to see in others. That's a good place to start.Another thing I know for sure: I love you. You're beautiful. You rock."
"He knew his words could not convey the impossible love he felt for her, so he held her stare and hoped (prayed!) she would understand the immensity of it all."
"Share your gifts. Learn from the gifts of others.Stay open to whichever role - teacher and/or student - life is calling on you to play. And bring as much acceptance and love to each performance.When we walk through life as only a teacher, we miss out on learning from the world around us.When we walk through life as only a student, we miss out on sharing our unique vision of the world."
"Isn't it time to start giving yourself the great gift of your own love?"
"Sometimes I act like I have my shit together more than I do. Sometimes I act like I don't have my shit together as much as I do. I'm done acting. I'd rather just be okay with however together my shit is at the time, and still do my best to show up, as I am."
"So many powerful, inspirational, insightful, hopeful and connected speeches today. It's been a joy to feel the energy of the women's marches all over the country and world. Feeling optimistic and energized."
"Friends...we can paralyze ourselves with the need to have all the details in order, with the desire to know all of the hows, with the reasons why we're not quite ready, and whatever other story we tell ourselves to keep from diving into the changes/dreams/goals we know we need to go after in our lives. At some point, though, we have to dive in. You'll never have all the details worked out, and they'll change along the way. You'll never know all the hows, and you don't need to. Nobody does. There will always be reasons you're not ready enough, and always fears that will beg you not to do a thing. Sometimes the only way we can overcome all of these obstacles is by starting, wherever we are, with whatever we have to offer in the moment. Really, just begin."
"Often we have to remind our minds that the job of asshole is already taken."
"You don't have to change yourself to meet the expectations of others. CIOs who not only accept you, but celebrate you for who you are. Give your time and energy to the ones committed to truth, the brave souls working toward a life of authenticity. Let that be your tribe, and you their family. Open yourself to connections formed from a pledge to be real."
"In acceptance, I am grounded. In vulnerability, I am strong. In love, I am whole."
"If only I could spend all my days surrounded by people brave enough to open their hearts for real."
"We can't act cruelly toward others without also being negatively affected by our actions. We really are all connected, deeper than we know. If we can't be kinder to each other simply because it's the compassionate and loving way to be, the less remember that when we hurt others, we hurt ourselves, too. Every single time. Just one more reason to treat each other well."
"I won't stop until I can look at myself in the mirror in love with the person I see."
"Yes, I'm a fan of living some part of each day with my head in the clouds."
"A happiness trick:do more things that make you happy, and you'll be happy more often."
"We all get in a funk sometimes.It doesn't mean you're failing, or ungrateful, or stupid, or lost. It means you're human.The Funk happens. For all of us. We can't be happy all the time. We don't need to be."
"If you can't see some part of yourself in every single person you encounter, then you're not looking closely enough, at the person or at yourself."