"We have to love technology enough to describe it accurately. And we have to love ourselves enough to confront technology's true effect on us."

"Technology proposes itself as the architect of our intimacies."

"It's too late to leave the future to the futurists."

"People thought I was very pro-computer. I was on the cover of 'Wired' magazine. Then things began to change. In the early '80s, we met this technology and became smitten like young lovers. But today our attachment is unhealthy."

"The idea of being vulnerable leaves a lot of room for choice. There is always room to be less foldable, more evil."

"Relationships we complain about nevertheless keep us connected to life."

"Texting is more direct. You don't have to use conversation filler."

"He prefers a deliberate performance that can be made to seem spontaneous."

"Children make theories when they are confused or anxious."

"One of the privileges of childhood is that some of the world is mediated by adults."

"We may end up with a life deferred by the business of its own collection."

"We now expect more from technology and less from each other."

"There are moments of opportunity for families moments they need to put technology away. These include: no phones or texting during meals. No phones or texting when parents pick up children at school - a child is looking to make eye contact with a parent!"

"He experiences a connection where knowledge does not interfere with wonder."

"A sacred space is not a place to hide out. It is a place where we recognize ourselves and our commitments."

"She had set it on the Internet, its own peculiar echo chamber."

"When Thoreau considered 'where I live and what I live for,' he tied together location and values. Where we live doesn't just change how we live; it informs who we become. Most recently, technology promises us lives on the screen. What values, Thoreau would ask, follow from this new location? Immersed in simulation, where do we live, and what do we live for?"

"Technology challenges us to assert our human values, which means that first of all, we have to figure out what they are."

"We expect more from technology and less from each other."

"From the earliest days, videogame players were less interested in winning than in going to a new psychic place where things were always a bit different, but always the same. The gambler and the videogame player share a life of contradiction; you are overwhelmed, and so you disappear into the game."

"Once we become tethered to the network, we really don't need to keep computers busy. THEY KEEP US BUSY."

"Online life is about premeditation."

"Children contend with parents who are physically close, tantalizingly so, but mentally elsewhere."

"Shakespeare might have said, we are 'consumed with that with which we are nourished by."

"Sometimes a citizenry should not simply 'be good'. You have to leave space for dissent, real dissent."

"Under stress, they seek composure above all. But they do not find equanimity."

"In his history of solitude, Anthony Storr writes about the importance of being able to feel at peace in one's own company. But many find that, trained by the Net, they cannot find solitude even at a lake or beach or on a hike. Stillness makes them anxious. I see the beginnings of a backlash as some young people become disillusioned with social media. There is,. too, the renewed interest in yoga, Eastern religions, meditating, and 'slowness."

"He makes an effort to be more spontaneous on Facebook."

"The journal is written to everyone and thus to no one."

"For him, mastery of the game world is a source of joy."

"The idea that we can be exactly what the other desires is a powerful fantasy."

"Online life is practice to make the rest of life better, but it is also a pleasure in itself."

"A good therapy helps you develop a sense of irony about your life so that when you start to repeat old and unhelpful patterns, something within you says, 'There you go again; let's call this to a halt. You can do something different.' Often the first step toward doing something different is developing the capacity to not act, to stay still and reflect."

"Computers brought philosophy into everyday life."

"A woman in her late sixties described her new iPhone: 'it's like having a little time square in my pocketbook. All lights. All the people I could meet."

"Talking on a landline with no interruptions used to be an everyday thing. Now it's exotic, the jewel in the crown."

"We go from curiosity to a search for communion."

"Realtechnik is skeptical about linear progress. It encourages humility, a state of mind in which we are most open to facing problems and reconsidering decisions. It helps us acknowledge costs and recognize the things we hold inviolate."

"We cannot all write like Lincoln or Shakespeare, but even the least gifted of us has the incredible instrument, our voice, to communicate the range of human emotions. Why would we deprive ourselves of that?"

"Underestimation has its uses."

"Connectivity becomes a craving."

"But, of course, what is up on Facebook is her edited life."

"We see a first generation going through adolescence knowing their every misstep, all the awkward gestures of their youth, are being frozen in a computer's memory."

"My own study of the networked life has left me thinking about intimacy - about being with people in person, hearing their voices and seeing their faces, trying to know their hearts. And it has left me thinking about solitude-the kind that refreshes and restores. Loneliness is failed solitude. To experience solitude you must be able to summon yourself by yourself; otherwise you will only know how to be lonely."

"The way we contemplate technology on the horizon says much about who we are and who we are willing to become."

"I call it the Goldilocks effect: We can't get enough of each other if we can have each other at a digital distance-not too close, not too far, just right. But human relationships are rich, messy, and demanding. When we clean them up with technology, we move from conversation to the efficiency of mere connection. I fear we forget the difference."

"If you feel it right now, on the Internet, you can tell them right now; you don't have to wait for anything."

"When one becomes accustomed to 'companionship' without demands, life with people may seem overwhelming. Dependence on a person is risky but it also opens us to deeply knowing another."

"I think computers are the ultimate writing tool. I'm a very slow writer, so I appreciate it every day."

"Fantasies and wishes carry their own significant messages."