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Quotes by Psychologist
"When the satisfaction or the security of another person becomes as significant to one as one's own satisfaction or security, then the state of love exists. Under no other circumstances is a state of love present, regardless of the popular usage of the term."
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"To hope means to be ready at every moment for that which is not yet born, and yet not become desperate if there is no birth in our lifetime."
Hope,
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"As a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing."
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"A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe."
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"Being a good psychoanalyst, in short, has the same disadvantage as being a good parent: The children desert one as they grow up."
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"Although we love the idea of choice - our culture almost worships it - we seek refuge in the familiar and the comfortable."
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"The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers."
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"Reflective abstraction, however, is based not on individual actions but on coordinated actions."
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"Birth-control is effecting, and promising to effect, many functions in our social life."
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"A considerable number of persons are able to protect themselves against the outbreak of serious neurotic phenomena only through intense work."
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"That's what's so great about my job. I get paid to do what got me in trouble in grade school space out and play with my imaginary friends. In terms of Isaac, when the time's right."
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"One reason that I embarked on a study of Nazi doctors was that in this personal journey, I had the feeling increasingly that I did want to do a Holocaust study and that increasingly I wanted it to be of perpetrators, which I thought was more needed."
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"A toddler believes that if you love a person, you stay with that person 100 percent of the time."
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"I never quite envisioned myself a proper doctor under that white coat, but I was interested in the idea of healing and in the psychological dimension rather early on."
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"That has to remain the principal reason for doing it, doesn't it? I know it's possible to write for money, and many very good writers have done so. But for me, it has to remain the principal thing that I actually want to do the writing."
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"But the rule seems to be that the bigger and more life-changing the decision, the less it will seem like a decision at all."
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"People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection."
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"Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional."
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"It didn't feel difficult at the time because I was so charged up about both books. Afterward, however, I was pretty tired. In a good way, like after a great workout."
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"The child benefits more from being valued than evaluated."
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"Time spent researching varies from book to book. Some novels require months, even years of research, others very little. I try to do most of my research before I begin but inevitably questions emerge during the writing."
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"We consume, as we produce, without any concrete relatedness to the objects with which we deal; We live in a world of things, and our only connection with them is that we know how to manipulate or to consume them."
"Do you wait for things to happen, or do you make them happen yourself? I believe in writing your own story."
"What a person considers the minimal necessities depends as much on his character as it depends on his actual possessions."
"Take a shower, wash off the day. Drink a glass of water. Make the room dark. Lie down and close your eyes.Notice the silence. Notice your heart. Still beating. Still fighting. You made it, after all. You made it, another day. And you can make it one more. You're doing just fine."
"There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started out with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet which fails so regularly, as love."
"For I have nothing to lean on, nowhere to call my home and there is nowhere I will go for Christmas to rest my head and touch familiar walls. I have no degree to show on paper or employment to take care of my health or the reassurance that I can pay my rent. And I have no right to complain because this is the road I choose and I built it myself, not really knowing where I wanted it to lead, but I have hope in all things ahead and behind and I am learning to let myself go. Forget my own ego and believe that what I am doing is grander than my very own self."
"The faculty to think objectively is reason; the emotional attitude behind reason is that of humility. To be objective, to use one's reason, is possible only if one has achieved an attitude of humility, if one has emerged from the dreams of omniscience and omnipotence which one has as a child."
"He left that morning, the last words still echoing in my head, and though he said he'd come back one day I know a broken promise from a right one for I have used them myself and there is no coming back. Minds like ours are can't be tamed and the price for freedom is the price we pay."
"The bureaucrat is a man who administers things and people, and who relates himself to people as to things."
"I am not a broken heart,and I am not your fault."
"Infantile love follows the principle: "I love because I am loved." Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved because I love." Immature love says: "I love you because I need you." Mature love says: "I need you because I love you."
"I took him to the river and said "let's watch something drown, So he took a stoneand I took my necklaceand we threw it all together,the way I always think I will get better in July. Things will change and sounds won't acheand I gave my heart to uncertainty so many times, and so I took him to the river,threw the necklace in the river to slowly watch it drown, or burn, or fade awaylike I've done so many times."
"There is nothing inhuman, evil, or irrational which does not give some comfort, provided it is shared by a group."
"They were more free, but they were more alone."
"While we teach knowledge, we are losing that teaching which is the most important one for human development: the teaching which can only be given by the simple presence of a mature, loving person."
"Man's nature, his passions, and anxieties are a cultural product; as a matter of fact, man himself is the most important creation and achievement of the continuous human effort, the record of which we call history."
"Psychology as a science has its limitations, and, as the logical consequence of theology is mysticism, so the ultimate consequence of psychology is love."
"Let me wake up next to you, have coffee in the morning and wander through the city with your hand in mine, and I'll be happy for the rest of my fucked up little life."
"Modern man has transformed himself into a commodity; he experiences his life energy as an investment with which he should make the highest profit, considering his position and the situation on the personality market. He is alienated from himself, from his fellow men and from nature. His main aim is profitable exchange of his skills, knowledge, and of himself, his "personality package" with others who are equally intent on a fair and profitable exchange. Life has no goal except the one to move, no principle except the one of fair exchange, no satisfaction except the one to consume.p97."
"Living in this skin is hard and painful, most of the times, because I never volunteered to take this on. The daily sacrifice of heart over mind,the forever ongoing task of explaining this and that,and why I don't want to look like this and be like thatbut still here I am and if this is the body I've been given I'm sure as hell gonna make it work."
"To have faith requires courage, the ability to take a risk, the readiness even to accept pain and disappointment. Whoever insists on safety and security as primary conditions of life cannot have faith; whoever shuts himself off in a system of defense, where distance and possession are his means of security, makes himself a prisoner. To be loved, and to love, need courage, the courage to judge certain values as of ultimate concern " and to take the jump and to stake everything on these values."
"I don't need anyone else to distract me from myself anymore, like I always thought I would."
"We not only romanticize the future; we have also made it into a growth industry, a parlor game and a disaster movie all at the same time."
"This experience of being loved by mother is a passive one. There is nothing I have to do in order to be loved-mother's love is unconditional. All I have to do is to be-to be her child. Mother's love is bliss, is peace, it need not be acquired, it need not be deserved."
"Free man is by necessity insecure thinking man by necessity uncertain."
"Maybe I can learn to live in a way that makes it worth writing about, and maybe I can actually become something more than this empty shell."
"Build your home in small moments of joy, and you will always feel at home."
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