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Identity Quotes


"The truly fearless think of themselves as normal."


"The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others' appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among."


"I sometimes felt as if these marks on my body were a kind of code, which blossomed, then faded, like invisible ink held to a candle. But if they were a code, who held the key to it? I was sand, I was snow-written on, rewritten, smoothed over."


"The whole campaign was a tragic case of mistaken identity."


"I am a drifter, and as lonely as that can be, it is also remarkably freeing. I will never define myself in terms of anyone else."


"She was an exotic flower amongst the snowdrifts, out of place, a Technicolor misfit in a monochrome Christmas movie."



"He wasn't what I'd thought he was; maybe he never had been. I wasn't what I'd thought I was, either."



"Are you bisexual""Labels were invented for people like you who can't grasp a reality outside of a defined gender role. I like what i like."


"Having grown up here, I always wonder what it would be like to see this city as a tourist. Is it ever a disappointment? I have to believe that New York always lives up to its reputation. The buildings really are that tall. The lights really are that bright. There's truly a story on every corner. But it still might be a shock. To realize you are just one story walking among millions. To not feel the bright lights even as they fill the air. To see the tall buildings and only feel a deep longing for the stars."


"She could not have been born gray. Hercolor, her color of brown, was an essential part of her, not an accident. Her anger, timidity, brashness, gentleness, all were elements of her mixed being, her mixednature, dark and clear right through, like Baltic amber. She could not exist in the gray people's world. She had not been born."


"We shall never be understood or respected by the English until we carry our individuality to extremes, and by asserting our independence, become of sufficient consequence in their eyes to merit a closer study than they have hitherto accorded us."


"God created you not as an ordinary personality, but eminent, peculiar, and with a special assignment."


"Early on, New York already had a national and even international identity."


"Just be yourself. An original is worth more than a copy."


"You go above and beyond them: but the higher you climb, the smaller you appear to the eye of envy. And he who flies is hated most of all."


"On another level, I want to mention that I have a strong Jewish identity and - over the years - have been involved in several Jewish projects, such as the establishment of a strong program of Judaic Studies at the University of California in San Diego."


"I was born in Washington State and have lived here for 42 plus years."


"He laughed a lot, but as a boy he had been so self-conscious about being dark-skinned that he went to the fields to get buffalo milk to spread on his face, thinking it would make him lighter. It was only when he met my mother that he became comfortable in his own skin. Being loved by such a beautiful girl gave him confidence."


"There is no gender identity behind the expressions of gender... identity is performatively constituted by the very 'expressions' that are said to be its results."


"After so many years struggling to keep up with you, I finally realized we're not even running the same race."


"It is quite understandable that Puerto Ricans seek to preserve a cultural sense of identity without separating politically from U.S. national sovereignty."


"But some boys like boys more -And some girls make other girls hearts soar!"


"His father was self-made, but his mother was constructed by others, and such edifices are notoriously fragile."


"When you're in a band that's so big when you're young, you kind of lose your identity a little bit. You just become part of the band. I just needed to get away from it."


"I once heard a tale of a man who split himself in two.The one part never changed at all; the other grew and grew.The changeless part was always true, The growing part was always new,And I wondered, when the tale was through, Which part was me, and which was you."


"Be you and only you, which means be you and all the people you have loved..."


"We spend so long trying to be what other people want,that when we look in the mirror,we see a stranger."


"Age has given me the gift of me; it just gave me what I was always longing for, which was to get to be the woman I've already dreamt of being. Which is somebody who can do rest and do hard work and be a really constant companion, a constant, tender-hearted wife to myself."


"As far as I was concerned men were something you had around the place, not particularly interesting, but quite harmless. I had never shown the slightest feeling for them, and apart from my never wearing a skirt, saw nothing else in common between us."


"Most people are surprised to hear how they really sound, as the American media uses the call of the red-tailed hawk when showing an eagle. They don't think the eagle sounds regal enough. And so we lie to ourselves about the very identity of our national icon . . ."


"My point is, that if I'm honest, my life is all about me."


"He was the captain of the rugby team and he was built like a fucking gorilla. He had the personality of a fucking gorilla, too."


"I didn't speak English until I came to Pittsburgh."


"His locked, lettered, braw brass collar, Shewed him the gentleman and scholar."
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