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Identity Quotes


"Max is a marvel to us. He will never have to come out because he will never have been kept in. Even though he has a mom and a dad, they made sure from the beginning to tell him that it didn't have to be a mom and a dad. It could be a mom and a mom, a dad and a dad, just a mom, or just a dad. When Max's early affections became clear, he didn't think twice about them. He doesn't see it as defining him. It is just a part of his definition."


"A black boy brought Wilson's gin and he sipped it very slowly because he had nothing else to do except to return to his hot and squalid room and read a novel - or a poem. Wilson liked poetry, but he absorbed it secretly, like a drug. The Golden Treasury accompanied him wherever he went, but it was taken at night in small doses - a finger of Longfellow, Macaulay, Mangan: 'Go on to tell how, with genius wasted, Betrayed in friendship, befooled in love...' His taste was romantic. For public exhibition he has his Wallace. He wanted passionately to be indistinguishable on the surface from other men: he wore his moustache like a club tie - it was his highest common factor, but his eyes betrayed him - brown dog's eyes, a setter's eyes, pointing mournfully towards Bond Street."


"A tomboy is a bisexual girl's dream lover."


"Why won't you drown?" he wailed, pummeling me with his fists."I'm Poseidon's son," I said."Curse that upstart! I was here first!"


"Liking colors doesn't make you shallow.It gives you depth!"


"Know who you are and be who you are insofar as it is deem fit, for there is nothing so contemptuous to be who you are!"


"There's a point, around the age of twenty, when you have to choose whether to be like everybody else the rest of your life, or to make a virtue of your peculiarities."


"All mortals tend to turn into the thing they are pretending to be. This is elementary."


"knowledge of who we are prevents us from being distracted by the demands of our surroundings."


"Sooner or later you'll hear what your heart has always been telling you:stop trying to be who you think you should be - become who you are."


"If you don't know where to start, remember that every single thing that happened to you is yours and you get to tell it."


"There is something you can do that nobody else can do."


"Don't become a random photograph in the eyes of friends, and even your enemies, for each glance at your face will cause a declination of value and reputation. Create value, through scarcity."


"Don't settle for a normal life. Not when you can enjoy the wonderful weirdness of being who God created you to be."


"Guys, you don't have to act 'manly' to be considered a man; you are a man, so just be yourself. Don't let society make you believe you have to prove your masculinity to anyone because you don't. You are you and you are worthy, full stop."


"By the way, only a real man can accept his feminine side.""I don't know who fed you that line of garbage, but I can promise she's laughing at you right now."


"There is a great identity crisis among students today. Who am I? What is the purpose of life? Where did I come from? Where am I going? The Bible has a direct answer to this great big philosophical question and unless God seals the vacuum among youth today, then some other ideology will, because young people must have a faith. They must believe in something to find fulfillment in their lives."


"Each of us has no peers, because each of us is unique in who we are and what we have experienced.Anyone who tells you otherwise has quite obviously not met any of their peers either!"


"I'm quite aware of my differences. I wouldn't classify them as weird."


"Why had Ovid lived in Ancient Rome in 20 BCE23 and not Chicago in 2006 CE? Would Ovid still have been Ovid if he had lived in America? No, he wouldn't have been, because he would have been a Native American or possibly an American Indian or a First Person or an Indigenous Person, and they did not have Latin or any other kind of written language then. So did Ovid matter because he was Ovid or because he lived in Ancient Rome?"


"Do not yearn to be popular; be exquisite. Do not desire to be famous; be loved. Do not take pride in being expected; be palpable, unmistakable."


"Don't ever confuse my personality with my attitude. My personality is who I am. My attitude always depends on who you are."


"We are all too often told by someone that we are too old, too young, too different, too much the same, and those comments can be devastating."


"When we speak, dress, and think like others, we live with the goal of achieving the approval they have."


"If I were two-faced, would I be wearing this one?"


"What's with all those tattoos? Makes you look like a hooligan.'I suspect I am a hooligan."


"The confusion boys experience about their identity is heightened during adolescence. In many ways the fact that today's boy often has a wider range of emotional expression in early childhood, but if forced to suppress emotional awareness later on makes adolescence all the more stressful for boys. Tragically, were it not for the extreme violence that has erupted among teenage boys throughout our nation, the emotional life of boys would still be ignored. Although therapists tell us that mass media images of male violence and domination teach boys that violence is alluring and satisfying, when individual boys are violent, especially when they murder randomly, pundits tend to behave as though it were a mystery why boys are so violent."


"I am not the river I am the net."


"We are the estranged orphans of our nations and tribes, and we now bear the weight not of survival of the group but of personal identity."


"I am nobody, even if I say I am this or that."


"You are the author of your own life story. You have the leading role and get to determine how you interact with your supporting cast and other characters. Without realizing it, you may have allowed the events in your life to write your story for you rather than taking deliberate action to write it in your own voice. What will it take to love your life story to create the happy endings you desire?"


"I was nobody until.... now.... Now I think that I'm somebody!"


"We had as lief not be as not be ourselves."


"How can you stand apart from the herd? How can you start to be noticed so people will remember you? How can you be heard above the noise? "What is your personal branding that makes you special, unique, individual, and memorable?"


"You are the architect of your future, you decide whether you build a hut or a palace."


"Either way, you were connected. By your desires. By your defiance. By the simple, complicated fact of who you were."


"You must wear clothes which suits your own soul, not your own society! What you wish to do is much more important than what your society wants you to do!"
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