Ashly Lorenzana is a writer whose thoughtful reflections explore the nature of experience, judgment, and personal truth. Her work encourages readers to examine life's impermanence, embrace the value of experiences over possessions, and approach others' choices with humility and understanding. Through her honest and introspective style, Lorenzana invites audiences to piece together their own life's journey, acknowledging that true wisdom often emerges from lived moments rather than assumptions. Her commitment to authenticity and self-awareness inspires others to navigate life's complexities with grace, compassion, and a deeper appreciation for the stories that shape who we become.
"I say fuck the old advice 'show, don't tell.' It's called story TELLING for a reason, and I'll stick to it!"
"I'd much rather buy an experience than something I can possess in the material world."
"The end of a relationship is not always a failure. Sometimes all the love in the world is not enough to save something. In these cases, it is not a matter of fault from either person. Some things cannot be, it's as simple as that."
"Don't kid yourself by saying that one time can't make you addicted. It can. I believed it couldn't too when I first tried meth. I was so, so wrong. The worst part about it is that you won't realize what has happened immediately afterwards. Addiction is a gradual process and it doesn't happen overnight. But trust me when I tell you that one time is all that it takes to set this into motion. It can and it will."
"I can pretty much guarantee that you will at some point find yourself doing something that at one point you swore you'd never do. You'll do it for the sake of getting high, either directly or indirectly. Trust me. It will happen. You might think you know yourself better than anyone, but you have yet to become acquainted with your addiction. It will introduce itself in ways that you never thought were possible."
"Even if you think you're doing well and have it all figured out, there is a voice you will always inevitably hear at some point which nags at you and says 'but wait...' Don't ever dismiss it, listen to what it has to say. Life will never be close enough to perfect, and listening to that voice means stepping outside of yourself and considering your own wrongdoings and flaws."
"The parts of me that hurt the worst want me to write something for them, but I can't. I don't know what to say. I'm lost in all this sadness, and so are they."
"The next time you wish you could find the right words to say to someone who is hurting, just remember that dogs are a man's best friend without ever speaking a word to them. Simply be present and have sympathy."
"When you want to share something with another person more than anything, it is one of the most difficult things to realize that you can never have it. Accepting this realization is even more difficult. Loving someone does mean saying goodbye to them in some cases, though we will fight that until the oftentimes bitter end before doing the right thing."
"It took me years to stop feeling the guilt she made sure I kept feeling about what happened with him. He is a sick person that molests children, but I felt so bad about it for so long. I couldn't talk to a single person about any of this. No one. And she made me feel so bad about it all that I felt I shouldn't talk about it, even if there was someone. I felt ashamed and thought I was an awful person. Sometimes I still do. My mother abandoned me in the worst ways possible."
"The only unique contribution you can offer the world is to be who you actually are and no one else."
"There will be a time when you are forced to follow your heart away from someone you love."
"Everyone lies to themselves, but many people do it with good intentions. They want to believe what they tell themselves, it is oftentimes the best possible version of reality for them. Although it may not be accurate, it is a mural of their desires, aspirations, optimism and passion. These people usually either need time or a new experience to discover the truth. People who lie to themselves for different reasons are oftentimes trying to avoid something or escape blame for things they have done."
"People leave imprints on our lives, shaping who we become in much the same way that a symbol is pressed into the page of a book to tell you who it comes from. Dogs, however, leave paw prints on our lives and our souls, which are as unique as fingerprints in every way."
"The more fucked up you are, the more I like you. As long as you've managed to hold onto your identity through all the shit, then it won't matter how twisted you are. I will love you more for it."
"I think it's better to be comfortable in your skin than to be miserable being who you are. Sure, the meth is horrible. It ruins people from the inside out. It's a waiting game --- it's not a matter of if it destroys you, but rather a matter of when it will. I've made it this far. I'm not sending a message that it's 'cool' to be on drugs and tell everyone about it. I don't sum myself up as a drug addict and a hooker. That's not what I am. Those are juts things I do, they don't define me. Jobs and addictions do not make us who we are."
"Hope is a Heaven to keep you out of Hell. It's hard work believing that it's there."
"I'm falling apart, one part after another. Falling down on the world like snow. Half of me is already on the ground, watching from below."
"The fact of the matter is that you should really stop concerning yourself with writing a book because anyone can write a book that totally sucks. There is nothing special about that."
"Dogs are how people would be if the important stuff is all that mattered to us."
"If you're not scared of the dark, it hasn't been dark enough."
"I'm pretty lost in becoming all this frost. Bitter, like Winter. Strung-out like a string of pearls."
"What you should actually be trying to figure out is how to tell your story. The one that is every bit as unique to you as your fingerprints.This is the truly amazing feat because you are literally the only person capable of doing that. Only you know all the parts to your story and only you can pass it on for others to hear if you choose to."
"I know that my grandmother certainly did nothing to warrant my mother stealing all of her jewelry that my grandfather had given her as gifts over the years, just so she could peddle it for heroin on the street. Those were precious metals and gems that could never be replaced, and each one had a story behind it. A love story between my grandparents, that my mother flushed down a proverbial toilet so that she could shoot up, throw up and pass out."
"If you're going to do something, strive to do it better than anyone else. Do it all the way. If you're going to half-ass it, why bother?"
"Everything either is, was or will be. Time doesn't really exist. It's just something we have made up that makes it easier for us to grasp the universe."
"Nothing in the tangible word that isn't living has any value beyond a dollar amount. Considering that dollars can only buy more tangible and inanimate objects, it would seem a far more worthwhile goal to instead learn to place value on the treasures of the mind. Memories, knowledge and skill together are the only things we will ever actually own."
"Most of the pain we feel is nothing more than a story that needs telling."
"The easiest way to gain someone's trust is to deserve it. This should be pretty easy, assuming you're just being you and being real. Minimal effort too."
"Some people like living in black and white worlds. Let them stay there. Appreciate all the colors you see in your world though."
"How good something is should never be determined by its cost, designer, origin, or its perceived value by others."
"Money is necessary in everyone's life. Why? Only because people have decided that it should be. It didn't have to be the way that it has become. If nothing came at the price of money, it wouldn't need to exist."
"I have been known to think outside of all rules. Even my own."
"A selfless act out of even the purest desire to do for others, will be selfish in the satisfaction and happiness it brings to one doing it."
"99% of all addicts are liars and thieves. This might sound unfair and even close-minded, but it's the truth. There are some exceptions to the rules, but they are incredibly rare. Most people are no match for their addictions. They will be driven to do things they would normally never have considered all in the name of getting high. Sad, but true. So if you're thinking of trying drugs, keep in mind that all the people you will be dealing with are likely to steal from you and lie to you at your own expense."
"Everyone has a unique problem of their own, an issue that follows them throughout life and never goes away. You discover it early and go on to struggle with it for the rest of your life, almost until it eventually becomes an old enemy that you lose the will to fight or hate anymore. And just as every person has their own void, their own haunt or their own unanswered question...they also have the power to turn it into a legacy every bit as profound as they make it."
"If somebody never gets enough of you, they will always want more."
"If you manage to live long enough, most of your greatest fears become fond memories to look back on."
"My mother was obviously never there to take the blame she deserved. She left me to absorb it all in her place. She was far too busy in her own world, that incidentally revolved around herself. I'm pretty sure she dated a new guy every few months for most of my childhood. Some would last longer and show up again later after disappearing for a while, like the last day of a cold or flu before you start feeling better."
"Sooner or later in life, we will all take our own turn being in the position we once had someone else in."