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"Often men who have been emotionally neglected and abused as children by dominating mothers bond with assertive women, only to have their childhood feelings of being engulfed surface. While they could not 'smash their mommy' and still receive love, they find that they can engage in intimate violence with partners who respond to their acting out by trying harder to connect with them emotionally, hoping that the love offered in the present will heal the wounds of the past. If only one party in the relationship is working to create love, to create the space of emotional connection, the dominator model remains in place and the relationship just becomes a site for continuous power struggle."
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"My heart broke and my mind opened, tragedy works in a funny way like that ~ what once tore me apart was actually what was setting my truth free."
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"Idleness is the parent of psychology."
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Personal Development
"We are who we are because of what we learn and what we remember."
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"I don't need psychologyI am not a sociopathNeither and Psychopath."
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Personal Development
"When we hold-on to someone's imperfections we become emotionally pair-bonded to their maladies."
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Personal Development
"Showing a lack of self-control is in the same vein granting authority to others: 'Perhaps I need someone else to control me."
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Personal Development
"When you build a fence around yourself, you'll wonder why people are afraid to approach you, because the pride in the fence is the cause of your blindness."
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"Negative thoughts about ourselves steals our energy."
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Personal Development
"Nostalgia is your brain's way of photoshopping the blemishes of your past."
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"A poor but confident man is as hard to find as a rich but shy man."
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"Why is it that many contemporary male thinkers, especially men of color, repudiate the imperialist legacy of Columbus but affirm dimensions of that legacy by their refusal to repudiate patriarchy?"
Man
"It's in the act of having to do things that you don't want to that you learn something about moving past the self. Past the ego."
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"I'm such a girl for the living room. I really like to stay in my nest and not move. I travel in my mind, and that that's a rigorous state of journeying for me. My body isn't that interested in moving from place to place."
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"The confusion boys experience about their identity is heightened during adolescence. In many ways the fact that today's boy often has a wider range of emotional expression in early childhood, but if forced to suppress emotional awareness later on makes adolescence all the more stressful for boys. Tragically, were it not for the extreme violence that has erupted among teenage boys throughout our nation, the emotional life of boys would still be ignored. Although therapists tell us that mass media images of male violence and domination teach boys that violence is alluring and satisfying, when individual boys are violent, especially when they murder randomly, pundits tend to behave as though it were a mystery why boys are so violent."
Identity
"What had begun as a movement to free all black people from racist oppression became a movement with its primary goal the establishment of black male patriarchy."
People
"It is this dependency that became, and is, the breeding ground for abuses of power."
Society
"The mutual practice of giving and receiving is an everyday ritual when we know true love."
Love
"When angels speak of love they tell us it is only by loving that we enter an earthly paradise. They tell us paradise is our home and love our true destiny."
Destiny
"I began writing a book on love because I felt that the United States is moving away from love."
Love
"I thought about how we need to make children feel that there are times in their lives when they need to be alone and quiet and to be able to accept their aloneness."
Thought
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