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"Research tells us that we judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we're doing. If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people's choices. If I feel good about my body, I don't go around making fun of other people's weight or appearance. We're hard on each other because we're using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived shaming deficiency."
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"My heart broke and my mind opened, tragedy works in a funny way like that ~ what once tore me apart was actually what was setting my truth free."
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"Idleness is the parent of psychology."
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Personal Development
"Day or night, good or bad, all things from within."
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"We are who we are because of what we learn and what we remember."
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Personal Development
"I've always felt that the best whips and chains are in the mind. With a little creativity, the physical ones are hardly necessary."
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Personal Development
"I don't need psychologyI am not a sociopathNeither and Psychopath."
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Personal Development
"You must give permission for people to alter your thoughts. No matter how hard they knock, they can't get into your brain unless you open the door."
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Personal Development
"When we hold-on to someone's imperfections we become emotionally pair-bonded to their maladies."
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"Showing a lack of self-control is in the same vein granting authority to others: 'Perhaps I need someone else to control me."
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Personal Development
"When you build a fence around yourself, you'll wonder why people are afraid to approach you, because the pride in the fence is the cause of your blindness."
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"I've found what makes children happy doesn't always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults."
Childhood
"I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness - it's right in front of me if I'm paying attention and practicing gratitude."
Happiness
"When you judge yourself for needing help, you judge those you are helping. When you attach value to giving help, you attach value to needing help. The danger of tying your self-worth to being a helper is feeling shame when you have to ask for help. Offering help is courageous and compassionate, but so is asking for help."
Psychology
"Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen."
Self
"If you own this story you get to write the ending."
Life
"No one reaches out to you for compassion or empathy so you can teach them how to behave better. They reach out to us because they believe in our capacity to know our darkness well enough to sit in the dark with them."
Psychology
"Worrying about scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress. It happens when we've been through too much, and rather than coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability) we're angry and scared and at each other's throats."
Psychology
"Courage originally meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart."
Virtue
"There is no question that engagement requires sacrifice, but that's what we signed up for when we decided to become parents."
Family
"There is a quiet transformation happening that is moving us from 'turning on each other' to 'turning toward each other.' Without question, that transformation will require shame resilience. If we're willing to dare greatly and risk vulnerability with each other, worthiness has the power to set us free."
Growth
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