"We must raise both the ceiling and the floor."

"We need to stop telling [women], "Get a mentor and you will excel". Instead, we need to tell them, "Excel and you will get a mentor"."

"It's more pressure on women to - if they marry or partner with someone, to partner with the right person. Because you cannot have a full career and a full life at home with your children if you are also doing all of the housework and child care."

"What would you do if you weren't afraid?"

"I don't pretend there aren't biological differences, but I don't believe the desire for leadership is hardwired biology, not the desire to win or excel. I believe that it's socialization, that we're socializing our daughters to nurture and our boys to lead."

"It takes a near act of rebellion for even a four-year-old to break away from society's expectations."

"Writing about joyful experiences for just three days can improve people's moods and decrease their visits to health centers a full three months later."

"As more women lean in to their careers, more men need to lean in to their families. We need to encourage men to be more ambitious in their homes."

"I'm not telling women to be like men. I'm telling us to evaluate what men and women do in the workforce and at home without the gender bias."

"Our culture needs to find a robust image of female success that is first, not male, and second, not a white woman on the phone, holding a crying baby."

"But while compliant, raise-your-hand-and-speak-when-called-on behaviors might be rewarded in school, they are less valued in the workplace."

"Eric Schmid explained that only one criterion that mattered when picking a job-fat growth. When companies grow quickly, there are more things to do than there are people to do them. When companies grow more slowly or stop growing, there is less to do and too many people to not be doing them. Politics and stagnation set in, and everyone falters, He told me, "If you're offered a seat on a rocket sip, you don't ask what seat. You just get on."

"Why to women have to decide between family and career if men don't even think about it?"

"In November 2011, San Francisco magazine ran a story on female entrepreneurs in Silicon Valley and illustrated it by superimposing the featured women's heads onto male bodies. The only body type they could imagine for successful entrepreneurship was wearing a tie or a hoodie. Our culture needs to find a robust image of female success that is first, not male, and second, not a white woman on the phone, holding a crying baby."

"Feeling threatened by others' choices pulls us all down. Instead, we should funnel our energy into breaking this cycle."

"As a child I never thought about what I wanted to be, but I thought a lot about what I wanted to do."

"Option B' draws not just on my story but on the research and stories of many people overcoming all kinds of adversity. No one should have to go through challenges and trauma alone."

"But I also know that in order to continue to grow and challenge myself, I have to believe in my own abilities. I still face situations that I fear are beyond my capabilities. I still have days when I feel like a fraud. And I still sometimes find myself spoken over and discounted while men sitting next to me are not. But now I know how to take a deep breath and keep my hand up. I have learned to sit at the table."

"We need more portrayals of women as competent professionals and happy mothers - or even happy professionals and competent mothers."

"At best, people are open to scrutinizing themselves and considering their blind spots; at worst, they become defensive and angry."

"Every job will demand some sacrifice. The key is to avoid unnecessary sacrifice."

"Think personally, act communally."