Deborah Tannen Quotes

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Deborah Tannen, the renowned American sociologist and bestselling author, has illuminated the complexities of human communication and relationships with her groundbreaking research and insightful analysis. Through her studies on language and gender, Tannen has deepened our understanding of interpersonal dynamics, fostering greater empathy and understanding in our interactions with others.

"Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone."

"Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone."

Act, Communication, Independence, Intimacy

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"The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation - or a relationship."

"The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation - or a relationship."

Mistake, Conversation, Right, Talk

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"For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships."

"For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships."

Relationship, Women, Conversation, Language, Relationships

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"Each person's life is lived as a series of conversations."

"Each person's life is lived as a series of conversations."

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"Each underestimates her own power and overestimates the other's."

"Each underestimates her own power and overestimates the other's."

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"We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has."

"We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has."

Power, Language

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"Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women."

"Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women."

Relationship, Women, Girls, Relationships, Talk

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