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"But I couldn't say any of this yet. No one answer felt it could contain anything close to the truth about her. My thoughts of my mother were wild chaos, I didn't know how to tell him we'd been enmeshed for as long as I could remember."
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"Don't give up on yourself, your dreams and your family."
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"It is wonderful to live together as brothers and sisters."
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"Children observe everything with caution."
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"Children are holy angels."
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"Children are sacred beings."
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"The difference between a 'man' and a 'father' is that the former shares his genes, but latter gives his life."
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"Blessed your mum, who carried you in a womb for nine months."
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"Children are the most fearless souls on earth."
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"Children can see the beatitudes in nature."
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"Fatherhood is sacred."
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"Helplessness didn't have to be my identity, I wasn't condemned to it. I was willing - able - to change. Our enmeshment had been enabled by my belief that I needed [my mom] to help me, to take care of things for me - and to save me - but, back in the home where I'd learned this helplessness, I found I no longer felt that I was trapped in it."
Independence
"But the truth was stranger than an aimless road, it always was."
Truth
"My path, beyond doubt or denial. I just hadn't looked toward it. I wasn't lost. I'd always known the way. If I'd only allowed myself to look. I had never been lost, only scared."
Destiny
"If I could mark clearly, convincingly and consistently what was good for me and also what was bad-if I could say yes and also no, as if it were the law-it would become my law."
Self-Control
"I was no longer following a trail. I was learning to follow myself."
Independence
"Somewhere in the sun-washed space between Southern California's hills of sand and the present desolate volcanic sprawl I was crossing, my legs had strengthened, but " invisibly " so had my will. The wisdom of my body had cultivated vibrantly since those sadness-drunken months after the rape when I'd felt so numbed by the hurt and shame that I didn't move further. No longer."
Recovery
"But I couldn't say any of this yet. No one answer felt it could contain anything close to the truth about her. My thoughts of my mother were wild chaos, I didn't know how to tell him we'd been enmeshed for as long as I could remember."
Family
"I didn't know if I was brave or reckless."
Bravery
"I wanted both things: strength in my independence and also this new desire. This felt like the beginning of a new kind of love."
Independence
"I was passive by nature. I had always been. Arguing felt unnatural and uncomfortable. I was always agreeing even when I didn't really, instinctively looking for ways to forfeit power, to become more dependent, to be taken care of. I realized how intensely Icecap reminded me of Jacob. They were similar, both diligent and harsh in their judgments-and my big brother's sureness had always comforted me.But as I ran on sore legs to keep up with Icecap, my tendency toward silence stressed me."
Dependence
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